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| Has motherhood changed your feelings about your career? |
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| As you've progressed in motherhood, has that changed your feelings about your career (or vice versa)? Does this reflect your feelings, or not? |
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Cheryl |
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Stamford, CT |
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I still care very much about being successful in my career (or in A career), but I've found that since becoming a mother I'm more flexible in my definition of success than I ever thought I'd be. |
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KR |
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New York, NY |
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It's funny reading that answer below as I feel the same way-- I remember pre-motherhood feeling slightly undignant about others in my company (men or women) who weren't "slaving" the way I was. Now it would be intolerable to me to have to get home (at least regularly) after my kids are asleep. I don't know that I work less hard now (and my life is certainly busier than ever) but I'm much more selective about how I approach my work, including what I'm willing to stay after hours for vs. tackle the next day (or later at home if need be). |
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CMD |
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San Diego, CA |
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Shortly after I delivered our first born - a beautiful baby girl I started a very intense job in an always intense profession- Human Resources. I still struggle with feelings of guilt that I'm not doing enough in the office as my counterparts but its not enough for me to sacrafice the role that I now have as a mom. i too have a different definition of success and a role which is paramount to that of my career. |
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RW |
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I was reading your survey that 97% say it is okay to have a fullfilling career and motherhood. Regarding the Jennifer Aniston survey. Sorry but that is sooo untrue. Mothers that are juggling career, family and marriage are usually too exhausted to even give the idea of personal satisfaction much thought. If you are in an office all day - than something will be affected - kids, marriage, etc. If what they say is true that is the reason they split up - she isn't ready to do the juggling act and say "how great life is - doing it all". |
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A O |
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Arlington TX |
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I feel mothers can handle a career and a family depending on the woman. I know of several women who are successful at both. I also know women who struggle to do both. What I don't understand, is how many men and women enter into marriage without discussing the subject of children and careers. This in my opinion is one of the most important topics for men and women to have before they get married. I have friends who divorced over the fact that she didn't want kids. But she is also the first to admit that they never talked about it before their marriage. Now if this the reason for the breakup of Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt, the two of them should have had this discussion 4 1/2 years ago. (of course maybe they did). I have no personal problems with Jennifer holding out on having kids, she has that right. But I also understand Brad's point, he is 41 and it makes sense as to why he would like to start his family now. I just wonder if this was made clear by both of them beforehand. |
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AM |
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Newark, NJ |
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I would love to be successful at my career, but I realize that the guilt of not seeing my son grow,(drastic metaphor) would never allow me to be happy no matter how successful I maybe at work. I too, feel like other people may put in a bit more time than I do, I know that I have a baby to run home to and if I'm not with him then he is missing the affection of the person who loves him most in the world. I am looking forward to him going away to college, hopefully I'll still have the stamina and work all the extra hours that getting ahead requires. |
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K. Barnum |
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Snellville, GA |
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Working Mom Fighting for Flexibility |
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K. Barnum |
| Location |
Snellville, GA |
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Yes, mother hood has changed my feelings about my career a great deal. As a mother of three one of which is six weeks old I am dreading my return to work. I am a director in a high power, high stress position and I don't want to return to the madness. I didn't like returning home after my kids were sleep, dragging them into the office with me on late work nights and dissapointing my husband with my crazy schedule. But, I have worked so hard to build my department and train my staff. Some days I don't know if I am ready to leave it all. But the reality is I am not ready to loose my family. So I will fight for flexible work schedule. |
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Laurie |
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Hi~
I understand how motherhood can change the way we feel as our career. I'm a controller of a company and I was able to work part time from the office and part time at home after my children were born. I thought working at home would be a good fit, but I was always concerned about the amount of work I had to do and still really couldn't do all the things I dreamed with my children.
Well, last year I was introduced to a business that I could work alongside my profession that will replace my current income and allow me to quit my job. I'm building a business that will allow me to go on my children's field trips and volunteer in their life. It's amazing! There are so many wonderful, professional women involved in this company. People who's priorities changed with motherhood but who still want to make a significant income and make a difference! I'd love to share more with you! It could change your life and it's said we are only presented with one or two life changing opportunities in our lifetime! This could be your first or your last. There's no pressure, check out my website and contact me if you'd like to explore some options! Best wishes~
Laurie
www.MadeInTheUSA.MyArbonne.com |
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